Cope With Guilt And Shame
Becoming a mom is not easy, and it often comes with unexpected and unwarranted feelings of inadequacy. Some mothers experience shame when asking for help, thinking they need to "bear it all" and be resilient. The truth is, a good mother isn't defined by self-sacrifice.
To cope with guilt and shame associated with motherhood:
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Practice affirming yourself and giving yourself grace, rather than judging yourself or feeling guilty for having common struggles. The more you treat yourself with kindness, the calmer and more confident in motherhood you'll feel.
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Release yourself from unrealistic expectations and comparisons. Not every dish will be washed right away, and you won't always be able to put on a smiley face. Motherhood is complicated, and there's no perfect way to be a mom.
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Therapeutic support and help from your loved ones can be powerful. Sometimes, you'll need an outside reminder that you're doing the best you can, (and your best is often enough). Therapists can also provide tools and tips to use when situations get overwhelming.